If you have nothing nice to say then don't say anything at all

You know that saying, "If you have nothing nice to say then don't say anything at all"?!! Well, I try to live by that philosophy. Now, I admit that I do not always say nice things, if someone says something nasty to me, they might as well be prepared to hear something not as nice right back. The thing about the statement, is that I only say mean things in those occasions, despite how much I may dislike someone. I bite my tongue, until they provoke me for good reason.

So the other day, I overheard someone saying not so nice things about me, particularly in my photography, and professional (work) success. It was not what was said, but who was saying it. I let the person express them selves without saying a word. I stood there in silence. I was so naive that someone I considered a friend would say such cruel things. How can they be nice to you and then say those things behind your back. I guess that was my mistake and I should have paid more attention to the signs. I am a firm believer in knowing a person's true character by the way they speak of others. This person, would speak ill of their close friends not acquaintances. I am talking about close friends, close friends who you would have over for dinner, call to share your sorrows and happiness, friends who you know are there for you. I often would listen to how the person would complain and make themselves feel mightier then their close friends. Gulp, sigh.... I should have said something then.

At this point, I am grateful, that I was able to see their true colors, and true intentions. I am not angry at the person as none of the things they said were true about me. What I would like to know is WHY? are you so upset that I work hard to enjoy the fruits of my labor. Why?, would you not be happy for me? WHY?, would you not ask your self WHY is it that YOU are not happy with your blessings and so un happy about mine??? Many say it is because of jealousy, really??? Jealousy?!!! I guess I do not understand if that is the case, why they would be envious. Are they envious, that I went through many trials and tribulations? I did not get to where I am at with out any fears, struggles, stress and tears.

The funny things is that this person's wonders why I do not want them to be a part of my life. As I have distanced my self from them, and to be honest with you, I have been happier. I have noticed a change in my attitude, as I do not have someone negative to listen to. Does this make me a better person then you, the answer is no, but it makes me more grateful and appreciative of the close friends I have.

So to those friends that are my true friends thank you from the bottom of my heart. For all of your support and comfort on those not so good days and happy days :)

To my other friend mentioned, I am sure you will read this. Please do not think I am mad at you, I just hope that you will count your blessings and not everyone else's.